Thursday, March 15, 2007

RELATIONSHIPS : A Few Musts To Keep In Mind

1. Is your attitude casual?

Once you win him/her over, your approach may become casual. Once this attitude becomes an every day affair, the relationship suffers and like a brick taken out from a wall a day, the wall of relationship slowly becomes weak and one day collapses to your shock. So, do not keep your attitude casual. Always be loving and caring towards your partner.

2. What are you looking for in your partner?
Many of us actually get confused in this part of building a relationship. What is it that you need from him or her…? Needs or wishes can be in varied forms like physical, friendship, love, etc…
Once you know what precisely you want from your partner and your relationship, your relationship improves immediately. You can then talk to your partner about your needs and find out his/her needs.

3. Avoid Hurry Burry
Many of us hurry to develop a relationship. That fails most of the times. Unless, you give time to make it mature on its own, it will not work. Remember Like wine, let it mature. it will taste better.
4. Happiness - a two way street

Happiness is the primary need of all of us. All of us want to be happy and avoid pain. The beginning of any relationship also depends upon how happy we are with each other. But we also derive happiness from what we achieve on our own.

Make him/her happy and give him/her a chance to make you happy. Let both of you show care for each other

5. Relationships and values

We have values that are dear to us. Some of us never bend the values under any circumstances. Values guide every person in making choices.

Most of the relationships break down because of value conflicts. If both the partners share contrasting values, the relationship is doomed from day one.

6. Do you work on your relationship?

To have a relationship that works, one has to work. Most of you take a relationship for granted once you reach a certain level of intimacy. You assume that you are regular partners. You forget to work on the rough edges and that dooms the relationship to your surprise.
Every relationship is meeting of two individuals who have to love each other, accept each other and learn to live happily with each other and that requires work.

7. Trust in a relationship

Trust means to believe. No relationship can survive without trust. Trust is the foundation on which a relationship is built. If you don't trust a person, howsoever you may love him/her, your relationship will not survive, because you have no trust in him/her.
8. Stop the blame

In such a relationship, everything is ours. It is neither yours nor mine. Its all ours. Even if one partner blunders, the other partner supports him/her. Both experience the joy of each others achievements. The fissure in the 'ours' to 'me and you' gives rise to the beginning of the blame game

To continue with the blame game and living together will not produce any result other than pain. Blames are not the disease but the symptom of the disease that is hurting your relationship.

About Author

Abagaile Odalis is a family and relationship professional with 12 years of experience in this field. She has written two revolutianry books on how to Seduce Women and the other to Attract Men .


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