Wednesday, January 31, 2007

Do You Have A Date For Valentines Day?

Do You Have A Date For Valentines Day?
By Dawn H Robertshaw

Valentines Day is just around the corner. We all like to be loved, and after all, Valentines Day is about love and caring for one another and those who are alone often feel left out. If you are single and you do not want to be, start to think about how you are going to start paving the way for a relationship. In order to have a relationship you need to start off on a date. So, how are you going to get that date?

Write down a list of all the ways that you can get that date, they can include;

*Online dating sites. Do a search in Google, there are quite a few online dating sites out there. All you have to do is put your profile up on a few sites and you will get contacts from people with similar likes and dislikes, interest etc. Some of them even allow you to specify a specific area; you never know your perfect match may just live up the freeway!

*Speed dating. These are events for singles which are held for a couple of hours. You will get a few minutes to find out a little about this person to decide whether you want to see them again.

*Slow dating. This is similar to speed dating but at a lot slower pace.

*Singles groups. These are social clubs which have been set up specifically for singles; they include people who are recently separated, divorced or widowed.

*Volunteer at a local church group, conservation program or even to work in the Amazon rainforest!

*Join the gym or participate in a sporting activity. If you participate in a sporting activity that you enjoy doing, your potential mate will already have something in common with you.

It does not have to cost money. There are lots of things that you can do at little or no cost if you put your mind to it.

Dawn Robertshaw has written numerous articles and ebooks on coping with life in the 21st century. For more free articles, tips, advice and a range of health and relationship targeted information products in written and audio form for immediate download visit us at

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Sunday, January 28, 2007

Way To Attract Your Lover

Way To Attract Your Lover
By Zeeshan Muhammad Yaqoob

Flowers and gifts are usually exchanged between lovers on Valentines Day. One question is always come to my mind that why do we celebrate this day, but it is still a mystery so i can’t gets the answer of it. It is always in our mind that February is a month of Love. How to celebrate this day, which is full of love and, with whom to celebrate, that is a question of every young girl or a boy. At that time when we were not had mobiles; we used to send love messages to our loved ones through Loving Cards, Greeting cards, mails. But now a day’s thing has change, now we prefer to show our feeling and emotions by sending some nice cute lovely SMS messages to our love once. In everywhere, on Valentines Day 14 Feb., there is exchange of many millions of love SMS messages on this loving day.

You are like the sunshine so warm, you are like sugar, so sweet... you are like you... and that's the reason why I love you

You must be a good runner because you are always running in my mind, you must be a good thief because you have stolen my heart, and I am always a bad shooter because I Miss You Always...

I am in hospital now. After 5 minutes, I will be transferred to a surgery room. The doctor told me, I will die if I stop RECEIVING YOUR SMS

If the people we love are stolen away from us the only way to have them live on is to never stop loving them. Buildings burn, people die, but real love is forever...

If I die and go to heaven, I'll put your name on a golden star. So that all the angels can see, how much you mean to me.

I miss you so, here around me, so many people, but yet so alone. I miss your lips, your lovely smile; I miss you each day more and more!

I feel something in my heart, it's like a little flame, every time I see you, this flame lights up, this flame is special for you, because I LOVE YOU!...

When a heart is the sign of love, and red the color... and when walking around with your head in the clouds means that one is in love. Why do I draw a line in blue and am I only thinking of you?

There is a lot of bird’s whispering only about you, you should once listen to them, and then you would know how much I love you.

When u feel hot and warm at the same time, when u read over the same line for the tenth time, when you heart and thoughts some one how appear rhyme and when a simple name conquers your whole mind then your in deep trouble my friend… u are in what they call “love”.

If you have a boy friend or a girl friend :-) and you have a mobile, then why are you waiting, get your desire SMS within thousands of SMS and send this lovely romantic SMS messages to your loved ones. If he or she really loves you :-), you will get a reply with more romantic SMS message (must check it). So be ready valentine days is not so far now so Exchange these love SMS on this Valentines day to your love once.

Zeeshan Yaqoob , Maintaining site of Love sms Valentine's sms Funny sms Birthday sms Friendship sms messages named ""

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Friday, January 26, 2007

How To Keep Your Love Alive

How To Keep Your Love Alive
By Dr. Brenda Shoshanna

Some believe that romance should just come naturally, and if it doesn’t, or if the original closeness that existed in a relationship starts to subside, it means that something is wrong. Nothing is further from the truth. Keeping love alive requires time, attention and the willingness to keep things fresh and learn how to constantly reconnect. Here are some steps that will help us reconnect with our partners, and keep the love alive.

Step 1: Give up dead routines

After the initial excitement of being together is over, many fall into a routine and begin taking one another for granted. They assume they know what their partner is feeling, that it doesn’t matter if they come late for a date, don’t look as good as they used to, or decide to spend more and more time out with friends. However, it is crucial to realize that there are many small ways in which we sabotage relationships. Unless two people feel cared for and valued by one another, it is easy for the feelings of love to fade away.

Break into routines. Snap out of ruts. Take time to plan exciting, romantic, delicious times to spend together. Even if it’s just for a little while. Dedicate time to the relationship that nothing can interrupt. This is a sacred time for the two of you, and during it do what makes both of you feel most fulfilled.

Step 2: Take Charge of How You Perceive Your Partner Each Day

The good feelings between partners are often heightened by the way in which they view one another. Do you view him as a hero? Someone you can look up to and respect? Or are you mostly dwelling upon his/her faults? After a relationship has gone on for a while it is easy to begin to view one another as ordinary. This is a sure-fire technique for putting out any fire that might exist. Remember, when you first fell in love, you only saw the best about that person and focused on how wonderful they were. If you want to keep the love alive, keep that going consciously.

Here are two exercises to do to help. Get a personal notebook to record your experiences and feelings in. Read it from time to time. Dedicated a certain time each day to the relationship and what is possible between the two of you.

Exercise A – How You See Your Partner

Take some time and write down a description of how you see your partner. Who is he/she to you now? How do you feel about him? Write this down without censoring your thoughts and feelings.

Then, write down how you saw him when you first met, and how you felt about him then. See how your feelings of closeness are affected by the way you are perceiving the person today. Realize that how you perceive a person is totally within your control. You can have the most beautiful person in front of you, but if you do not see it, it is of no avail.

Consciously view your partner in a way that is similar to the way you did in the beginning. They will feel the effects of this, and begin responding in kind.

Exercise B – Stop Pushing Him/Her Away

There are many, little things we do (consciously and unconsciously) that push our partners away. Many are afraid of intimacy and do a great deal to short circuit it. Take a little while to write down ways in which you push him/her away. This is not to blame yourself, but to become aware of the times when you are not actually inviting closeness, but putting on the brakes.

Now, decide to change the way you behave. Each day take one item on your list (the way you’ve pushed him away) and do the opposite. For example, rather than criticizing him in public, say nice things about him with friends. A few small actions can have huge effects. .

Step 2: Understanding Hidden Expectations

There is nothing that can cause us to disconnect from each other as much as expectations that have been unfulfilled. We all enter relationships with many kinds of expectations and dreams, some we are aware of, others not. There is nothing that causes more disappointment than our expectations which are not being met.

Take a moment to become aware of what you are expecting of your partner. Is it possible for him to fulfill these expectations Does he want the same thing from the relationship? More often than not, it is our unfulfilled expectations, not the other person, which make us upset. In order to feel close and satisfied in a relationship, a crucial step is making sure your expectations can be met. See how your expectations align with the person you’re with. Also take time to see if anyone can fulfill them? Are these expectations realistic or simply childhood dreams you are still carrying with you?

Exercise C –- Letting Him Fulfill Your Dreams

Become aware off which expectations of yours your partner does meet. Now see if you are willing to be satisfied with that. Can you find a way to feel grateful for what you are receiving? Sometimes just deciding that what your partner offers is good enough, can allow the love to re-ignite once again.
Then, let him know that he’s making you happy. Most people have a deep need to know and to hear that they are meaningful to you.

Step 3: Re-Choose Your Partner

When these steps are taken, you will not only be more connected, but you will be with your partner because there is no other place you want to be. The relationship will not be one of convenience, but one of choice. The actual act of re-choosing our partners, of knowing they are the one’s we want to be with, is the culmination of the reconnecting and romance we’ve found.

Sometimes it is very beautiful to make this process conscious. You can write down and express the ways in which you wish to recommit to your partner, you can write down and express the aspects of them that cause you to feel this way. By doing this on an on-going basis, we not only keep the love and relationship fresh, but we keep ourselves aware of why we are with the person, what our part is in the relationship, and the joy and romance that is possible for us to have forever.


Discover the surprising truths about love that will save your relationship in Dr. Shoshanna's new e-book, Save Your Relationship, (21 Basic Laws of Successful Relationships). Even a wonderful relationship can become difficult when we don't know and practice the simple laws of love. In this e-book you'll discover the common mistakes people make in relationships and how to set them straight. Filled with guidance and exercises, you'll learn how to clear up misunderstandings, feel good about yourself and make wise choices. Not only will you save your relationship, but find the fulfillment you've been hoping for. Dr. Shoshanna is a psychologist, speaker, workshop leader and the author of many books, including The Anger Diet (30 Days to Stress Free Living), Zen and the Art of Falling In Love, and Zen Miracles (Finding Peace In An Insane World)., or contact Dr. Shoshanna at mailto:

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Thursday, January 25, 2007

Is He Just A Friend Or He Loves You?

Is He Just A Friend Or He Loves You?
By CD Mohatta

This is a common situation. You know many men. Some of them are friends. Out of them one wants to be more than a friend with you. But he does not know how to tell you that? Are there any signs that will tell you that he is interested in you? Let us try to find out.

Friends always talk to each other freely. They laugh, make fun of each other and occasionally speak with each other in not a very civil way. If that man is interested in you, he will do none of this. Forget talking freely, he will find it difficult to speak to you. You will sometimes catch him looking at you intently, but as soon as you turn towards him, he will turn away. He would never make it obvious that he was watching you. If any time some body makes fun of you, you will find everybody joining the fun, but not this man. He would rather look at the fun maker with anger. If any time you knock yourself against any object, others may ignore that, but not your hero. He will surely come and ask you if he can help.

Being in love and being a friend are two different things. Friendship is devoid of romantic love. There is no place for passion in friendship. Friends share everything without any need of protection. Friends are not bothered if they show their wilder side to other friends. Rather they love that. Friends don't talk with each other in hushed tone and never feel shy of each other. Friends don't care about what they wear amongst friends. Friends are more like a group of like - minded people who enjoy each other's togetherness and behave more like siblings.

Romantic love stands at the other extreme. You will never catch a lover wearing something that can be commented upon negatively. A romantic lover does everything with a single objective - please his/her beloved. You will not find a romantic lover speaking the way friends do. Romantic lovers are not very open with each other and feel shy of each other’s presence. The flies in the stomach of a romantic lover when he/she looks at the beloved make all the difference. Now you know what signs to look for in a friend and find out if he thinks of you as a friend or his object of love.

CD Mohatta writes for ecards and online greetings, screensavers and desktop wallpapers. He also writes articles for He also writes for Desktop wallpapers - free desktop wallpapers. These are static wallpapers which can be your computer desktop background all the time. Read the messages and get inspired all day. He also writes for Here, you can take quizzes to find out about yourself and your relationships.

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Wednesday, January 24, 2007

How To Have Lots of Guys Chasing You

How To Have Lots of Guys Chasing You
By Tonja Weimer

Would you like to know how to have lots of men chasing you? If you are single, do you know the secrets of being irresistibly attractive? Would you like to have your choice of many great men so you can have the relationship of your dreams?

In truth, it isn't the wisest move for a woman to "wait" for a guy to "find" her. Finding each other needs to be a mutual choice. Both parties should take responsibility for whom they select to be with.

Chase does not mean stalking, seeking someone only for sex, or playing games to get your attention in order to exercise control over you. "Chase" in this article means:

*Madly attracted

*Vulnerable to you

*Seeking intimacy AND a lasting relationship

*Adores you

*Admires, respects, and could easily fall in love with you.

Being "chased" assumes that you will go places, be friendly, meet people, and reach out to others. If you keep yourself a secret, no one can find you and chase you.

If you want to have multiple choices of great guys who want to be with you, pay attention to the following known reasons that guys "chase" women...and fall in love with them.

* Your appearance

It needs to be polished and as attractive as possible without your obsessing about how you look all the time. Girls who sell themselves on looks alone always come up bankrupt. Appearance is important but it is just the beginning. do have control over how good you look.

Colors, clothes, hairstyle, and makeup are all under your control. You can get yourself to the gym and workout every day to have the best healthy body you are capable of. Whiten your teeth, get cosmetic dentistry if you need it or can afford it, and stand up straight. Poor posture is a major turnoff.

Finally, when you have done your best to look your best, shift your interest to other people, your work, or your other passions.

* Be friendly and talk to people.

Guys are attracted to women who pay attention to them, listen, and give appropriate compliments. Hold off on sharing the traumatic moments of your life--no one wants to hear those too soon. Get a counselor if you find that you must talk about them. Humor goes a long way. But keep it light and friendly--no put down, sarcastic, or bitter remarks. Those are not attractive.

* Depth

What attracts and holds a guy forever? Your level of committment to your work or your studies, your compassion for other people, and your dedication to a cherished cause. Loyalty, sensitivity, spirituality, and concerns about more than just the material life is very attractive.

* Confidence

This is the quality everyone says they need more of. How do you develop confidence? By doing things that make you feel proud of yourself. We're not talking about arrogance or feeling better than other people. Just quietly knowing that you have done a good job; that you have done the right thing even if it didn't matter; and that you are on purpose with your goals and values.

Develop and work on the above qualities and notice the line of guys forming who want to meet you, know you, and date you.

Visit or http://www.singlesdatingtips.comfor more tips, skills, and insight on dating, relationships, singles, and love. Subscribe to our F*ree Savvy Dating Newsletter from master single's coach, life coach, and syndicated columnist, Tonja Weimer. Copyright 2006, Tonja Weimer. (Please note source if reprinting this article.)

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Tuesday, January 23, 2007

How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You

How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You
By Kloudiia Iing Tay

Falling in love is something that everyone is looking forward to. It is that kind of heart-thumping, face-blushing, hands-shivering and mind-swirling feeling you would pay a million bucks to be seized with.

If falling in love is such a wonderful and heavenly feeling to have, then why is not everyone doing this? Is falling in love such a hard thing to do?

To answer this question, let's look at what it takes for someone to fall in love.

You meet the person. He/she attracts you and makes you want to get in contact with him/her. As you get to know each other more, sparks start to fly. Before you know it, you are in love. Your heart starts beating faster even at the sound of his/her name.

Doesn't the process sound simple enough? It sure does, at least on paper. But in reality, you know as well as I do that in order to reach that stage where you can get to know this person better, you need to first get his/her attention. Things start to become tougher at this point.

In short, you need to attract someone before anyone can fall in love with you and vice versa.

Therefore, the one prerequisite that anyone must possess before he/she can fall in love is to be attractive. So now the question is how to attract the person we like? Or better still, how do we attract anyone at anytime and anywhere?

Each of us has a unique set of criteria when it comes to attraction. Our neurons get stimulated when they are exposed to intelligent things like remarks made by someone or a crisp and acute analysis of a complex situation. We get psyched up when we see things that positively impact our vision pleasures or when we hear words of a flattery tone.

So do we really need to be Mr Know-All or Miss Gorgeous to be able to find a partner or to fall in love?

Truth is, no! Attraction is a perception. That means how attractive you are is a form of perceived reality in the eyes of the person you wish to attract. If this is the truth, that means perception can be manipulated. Which also means, it can be learned.

There are many ways in which you can be more attractive. But whether or not you will become attractive depends on your attitude towards yourself and people in general. I have listed five secrets to up your attraction quotient here. You may like to read it if you want to know the ropes to becoming more attractive.

When attraction is in place between you and your date, then there is a basis for the possibility to fall in love with each other. Add in some other ingredients like humour, sincerity and sensitivity and you are on your way to a heart-thumping, face-blushing, hands-shivering and mind-swirling experience in your life.

Attraction is not only the prerequisite to fall in love, it is also a critical component to stay in love even after you are in a relationship or marriage. Without the attraction, couples tend to fall out of love at a rate faster than they would have liked. Without a sound knowledge of how attraction works and how to handle it, a high tendency to get attracted by a third party is present. This is when the danger of extra-marital affairs and cheating comes into play.

Do not let this happen to you if you are in a relationship. Learn about the secrets of attraction now.

You can download the free eBook on how to increase your attraction quotient by visiting this site

This article is written by Kloudiia Tay, Dating Specialist and Love Coach who writes about Love and Marriage, Dating & Relationships on her site

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Sunday, January 21, 2007

How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You
By Vlad Karl

Getting a girl of your dreams is much like getting the car of your dream. But unlike a car which you can always bargain for, there is nothing like a 20 percent discount in courting the girl of your dreams, she's so sweet a thing to be discounted, you dearly are in love with her and your feelings for her can only be communicated not by the words of the mouth, but by the words of the heart. Getting the girl actually depends on how big your heart is - faint heart, never won fair lady.

The first step in the heart-winning exercise for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don't have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl's attention. Be unique, that's all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don't drink or smoke like any other loser.

Let her fall in love gradually. Romance is an important part of falling in love. When in College I had a crush on the most beautiful lady in our first year lot. Though all senior guys were out to get that girl, I managed to divert her attention from the other guys. I wrote her three letters without disclosing my identity and slid into her room secretly; all I said was 'Yours Secret Admirer.' The first letter contained the meaning of her name, this I got by playing around with the initials of her name to make meaning. The second was a funny message that could only be read backwards and it was all about her physique and her smartness. In the third letter I told the girl to be ready to receive a rose flower from her admirer, but only if she could be kind enough to phone him using a number that I had included in the letter. The girl did phone me that very night, and her first words to me were, "Hallo Secret Admirer." So, the story of our love affair came to be. Later she told me that was so creative of me, no one had approached her in that manner. I made her fall in love with me in the romantic manner.

Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. This is what I also did. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you'll get to know what she's into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up. I and my College steady were to break some time later but to date, we are the best of buddies. Be sure that bringing out the selflessness friend in you will make her create room for you in her heart.

A shoulder to lean on and some good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don't hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she'll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don'ts of life. Don't forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.

Make the girl feel special; because she's someone's friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she's your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.

Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go 'my my' and her heart will sing your name all the year round.

You have to be creative and constructive to keep girl's interest in you so full of life. I remember one time I told my girlfriend to be to imagine we are both deaf and dump. We then sat opposite each other on the table and started sharing our feelings for each other using eyes and hand signs. It turned out to be some fun. There was also this time that we were in the library and we decided we are not going to speak to each other verbal, so I wrote a love note on a paper and passed it across the table to her, she replied and on and on we carried on our love on paper conversation till we almost exhausted a whole rim of paper. At sometime, I noticed that some guys sited with us on the table were enjoying our ordeal than their studies. Such are the things that made the girl embrace my world. I remember her suggesting that we play deaf and dump two years after we broke up, can you imagine that?

Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o'clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can't sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.
No matter how many dates you take her, don't make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don't kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can't have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she's actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she'll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you'll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you'll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.

Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.

The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.

I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!

Vlad Karl is a writer who maintains a dating and love relationship column on

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