Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Dating Blindly

Knowing the person you are going on a date with, at least on a friendship basis, is one key to being successful in the whole dating game. As we have all learned (the hard way), blind dates are not typically successful. Dating people you meet online is also tricky and in most cases as “blind” as any date can get.

As more and more online dating services pop into existence it seems to be considered normal to meet and date people from the Internet. Without the aid and guidelines of a bona fide dating service, and even sometimes with the support of a reputable online dating service things can get out of hand quickly because unfortunately it is simple to be untruthful online.

When you have only had a few typed conversations with someone it is easy to predict they are interesting and charming. Instant Message conversations and Electronic Mail correspondence is a great way to get to know someone slowly. However, scheduling a dinner date with “Oscar or Olivia Charming” after only seeing their face in a grainy picture once or twice and before meeting them for a non-committal cup of coffee you might be reserving a ticket for disaster.

You don’t always know if the picture you are receiving is your online friend now or years passed. You can’t even be certain it is your online friend at all. There is an amazing trust factor that comes into play with meeting people online with which you might potentially date. Rules of caution begin with the basics.

Do not share your last name, your physical address, or your landline telephone number with anyone you meet online. There are safe effective ways to begin a relationship with an online acquaintance. The most recommended is to find a well-established, reputable online dating service. Word of mouth is a good bet when searching for the perfect online dating solution for your particular needs.

That’s not to say people have not successfully met, life-long friends or clear-cut soul mates in blind date situations or on the Internet. However the lesson learned from friends and family members who have experienced online and blind dating is to follow your heart but truly listen to that little voice that is your gut instinct.

Blind dates can be fun for the most adventurous of the dating clientele, but if you are more traditionally a reserved participant in the dating game you might want to consider some less exciting means by which a date might occur.

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Dave is the owner of and websites that provide information on dating and dating tips


Tuesday, September 25, 2007

Going in for the Goodnight Kiss

Nobody wants to be rejected. So how do you know when it's alright to go in for the first goodnight kiss? Well that's a very difficult call to make since every woman/man is different. As a male, I will tackle this topic from the perspective of the man.

Body language is a great way to tell if they're into you. Lets begin by looking at some of the things women do that show they're interested during the conversation:

Playing with and/or twirling hair (this is a tough one and can be confused with a simple case of OCD)

Raising their shoulders straight up and leaning towards you

Hands are open with her palms facing up and outwards

Lots of giggling

You know she's what?

It's time to go in for a kiss. Since she's in to you, there will be many opportunities throughout the night to make your move. If you wait until the last minute and hesitate (at the door or end of the date), you pretty much lost your chance. So be on the safe side and try to do it about midway through the date.

So what if you're not sure?

Just go for it! What's the worst that can happen...they say no? You have everything to gain and nothing to lose; you'll probably never see them again anyways.

Here are three different approaches to the goodnight kiss:

Silent: Making eye contact and then leaning in about 90% of the way

Polite: Asking them if it's alright to give them a kiss

Brave: Telling them that they have nice lips and asking if you could kiss them

So you chicken what?

Nothing. Opportunities come and really comes down to the person and how they choose to handle the situation. Some people can care less, while others take it harder. But the worst is when you regret not going in for the kiss when you know you should have. It happens to us all...we meet someone we really hit it off with or maybe a friend we always had the biggest crush on but never the nerve to let them know. Before you know it they're gone; it's like clockwork, they either meet someone or move across the country. And in the end all you're left with are those two dreaded words, what if?

About Author

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of -- a new interactive planning website.


Sunday, September 23, 2007

Mini Love Letter - It's Magical!

In a relationship, one of the most important aspects to enhance the relationship or take the relationship to the next level is honest communication between people. If you study communication in depth, there are basically only two methods, verbal and written. The written form is the most effective but can be also the most damaging if care is not taken in writing. People can forget what is being said but what is being written sometimes lives on over decades. This is the reason why love letters are so precious and effective.

An even more effective method is writing mini love letters or sometimes this is called love notes. In my relationship counseling, I often teach others how to develop their own love letters as an effective means of communication. The most important characteristic of an effective love letter is that it must reek of effort from the writer. However, writing love letters often can be quite difficult and time consuming. The mood, the time and the environment must be right to create an effective love letter.

In a lot of relationships, couples often suddenly feel the love moment. The love moment hits one suddenly. It may come when one is engrossed in doing a task and a sight triggers off a pleasant memory and one feels a warm feeling overcoming the entire body. It is in these moments that one should seize to write a love letter. Sometimes when it may not be too convenient, then a mini love letter or love note becomes a viable option.

What is a mini love letter? It is a short letter usually consisting of 1 to 3 sentences. It can be sent on a physical scented paper, an email or even a mobile short messaging. It is even more effective when the mini love letter is written in an unconventional medium such as on a pencil, bottle, tree bark you picked up and even on a piece of nice cloth. When mini love letters are written in an unconventional medium, it becomes a treasure.

Are mini love letters effective? Well, if you think about it, mini love letters are a multi-billion dollar industry already – your greeting cards are mini love letters! Notice how many words or phrases are there in the cards which you will easily pay $3 dollars to as much as $15 per card? Those cards are mini love letters written for you and you just have to pick one out. Although, it is a nice gesture, the problem with those is that your recipient knows that you bought it. So, the best mini love letters are those that come from your thoughts, your heart and those you created yourself. If you use a very unconventional medium, the mini love letter becomes even more pleasurable to the recipient. With an unconventional medium, your mini love letters ‘reeks of effort’ which will automatically radiate from it, and the recipient will recognize that instantly.

An example of a mini love letter on an unconventional medium would be:

Take a pencil and scrap off consistently one side of the pencil until the wood is exposed. It does not have to perfectly flat but it would make writing easier. Then take a felt pen marker and choose a love phrase e.g. “Without you, my life would be empty of all inspiration, love Joe”. Wrap up the pencil with a ribbon and present it when you next see her.

The best part of such a mini love letter on an unconventional medium is that it will be unique, the only one kind in the entire world, and this makes the mini love letter a treasure in itself.

I can assure you that pencil will never be sharpened, and it will be the most treasured pencil in the world for the recipient. Go ahead and write a mini love letter to someone close to you today.

Catherine Preth is a die-hard fan of love and everything around it. People need it more now than ever before. Catherine is the author of where she teaches people how to do the simplest thing to enhance relationships between people.

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Friday, September 21, 2007

7 Funny Replies That Work Online!

If you have spend some time talking online, you know there are some question that women ask you all the time. How to answer to these question to make sure that you are getting her attention and interest? Just try using next lines:

1.When she is questioning you about your marital status just say:
“Well, my dog hates the way I do coffee, it hopes I will find someone else that will make him a coffee every morning”

2. What is your age?
“I am a little child... when I am sleeping, a mature man when I am making decisions and an exploring teenager when I have the opportunity to talk with an interesting woman”

3. Do you have children?
It is a simple question to reply but you can say more than yes/no, and earn some points. So..
If you Do Have Kids you can answer “Oh yes, I have...(a 2 years old boy), he is a nice kid, and he is very responsible for my haircut.” :)
If you don't have kids: “No, I don't have kids yet. I'm still looking for the woman willing to take the risk of having good looking kids, like me. :))“

4.What happened with your ex ?
This is a hard question, don't give specific details, be serious and pass quickly over this subject. You can say something like : “I never joke about my love life. We just didn't match with each other/We couldn't pass over some problems together. and decided to go on on separate ways.”

5. What are you doing for living? What is your job?
Now, maybe you are hating your job but don't let her know that. Be enthusiastic and positive: “I am working in (domain) and I really like to wake up every morning with such a job. Sometime I forget putting my socks on in my hurry to reach at work”.

6. What kind of relationship are you after?
“I really want to find someone that can take me as I am, someone that can accept how gorgeous I am. :) “.

7. What are you doing in your spare time?
“I haven't to much spare time but I rely like to... (read GOOD books / watch GOOD TV Shows / listen GOOD music / share GREAT time with my friends).” You have to be selective and a little demanding... make her understand that you are not just wasting your time anyhow and with anybody available. So she will feel good that you are spending YOUR time with her.

The idea is that you have to be funny but serious at the same time. Make her curious, with every question you are answering her you have to make her want to know more about you. Just be different, be original.

Good luck and have fun!

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Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Increasing your odds at the bar

Picture for a moment the lion as he comes across a herd of delectable gazelle in the savannah. The lion circles his prey, crouches in the shrub, and then pounces on the unsuspecting gazelle. The lion does not go after the fastest gazelle because he knows that he will never catch it; rather, he goes for the slowest.

If the goal is to catch food in order to survive, the lion was successful because he went after what he knew he could catch. The fastest of the gazelle’s is used to the advances of the lion and is quick to react. The lion knows that if he chases that prized gazelle, he will be passing up all the other gazelle in the process…so he lets it go. But in the end, even the fastest gazelle will eventually fall victim to a swifter and more cunning adversary

Its a Lose-Lose Situation

Now imagine you’re hanging out at the local bar. Whether you’re in New York, Miami, Los Angeles, or Vermillion…the setup is always the same. The women are concentrated towards the center of any location while the men hover eagerly around the periphery.

Women don’t go out to the bars alone, there are always going to be at least 2 or 3 friends along with them. As the women get comfortable around the center, the men will encircle them and slowly come in for the kill. But unlike the cunning lion, they prey on the most attractive women in the bar. Like clockwork, there will always be a woman that is clearly more attractive than all of her friends. Each man will make his approach at the attractive female, and one by one, they will all be rejected.

Just like the quickest gazelle, the attractive woman is used to these advances and even the cleverest approach has already been anticipated. By chasing the most attractive female, that male has automatically lost out on winning over her friends.

It’s not rocket science

Actually, its Game Theory economics—John Nash won a Nobel Prize for this. Nash states that rational self-interest hurts everyone, and instead, everyone wins through cooperative games. So if you’re out with a couple friends at a bar and you see that one attractive woman hanging around, remember that she has probably been hit on the entire night and already eluded some of the best. Sure we want the most attractive catch, but remember that there is only one of them and many of you. If everyone goes after the one girl, nobody will win because each will attempt to undermine the other. On the contrary, if you decide to go for her friends instead, everyone can come out a winner in the end.

Think about it.

About Author

Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of - Fun and romantic first date ideas-- a new interactive planning website.


Sunday, September 16, 2007

10 Reasons Why SOME eRelationships do not Work

You are single, bored and you just have nothing to do. It is another miserable day like the day before. You need someone to talk to and you are turning on the computer, browsing some... dating sites. There are so many people... singles, like you are.

What should you ask from them? Can they change your life for better?

The answer to the last question is up to you. Would you let a person you have met online to change your life? Are you willing to do this? Do you trust someone you have met this way?

SOME people simply do not have the courage to let an online relationship to develop and change in a normal healthy relationship. Are you one of them?

Let me re-ensure you that online relationships really are working, and yes it can change your entire life, in a good way. :)

But there are some impediments or mistakes which are leading to the end of the relationship between two people that could have had a good future together:

1. First of all if you do not take people you are taking to too seriously, you will be treated the same way.

2. Being too secret and reserved. If you do not tell things about you and you are not working to develop a relationship, nobody will make this for you.

3. Trust or lack of trust is the biggest impediment of an eRelathionship. You have to try to get the people you are taking to trust in you, and then find out if that person is a trustworthy one. There are so many ways to check out this.

4. Being shy. If you are interested in someone and you want to meet her/him offline, let her/him know this. What do you have to lose?

5. Fear of disappointment or fear of becoming a victim of someone with bad intentions can make you paranoid. It is good to be preventive but not exaggerate about this. It is not funny and will pull people away.

6. Unbelieving. If you do not believe that an eRelathionship can become something more then it is, you will not pay too much attention and... You get exactly what you give and some more, don�t you?

7. Do not make that relationship a priority in your life. Any human needs to feel that is important for someone, that is the center of someone life, even if you have meet that human online. Don�t you feel the same? Wouldn't you pay more attention to someone if you would know that you are a priority in his/her life?

8. Not making the next step. Talking online can be fun but it is not enough to get to know a person better and after a while it can become boring. Talking on the phone can help you two to develop the relationship and do not forget that you can feel chemistry only when you two are meeting face to face, touching each other, feeling the smell of her/his perfume.

9. Beeing insincere, pretending that you are something that you are not will lead you eventually to the end of any relationship. So be honest from the very beginning, maybe you have just meat the match of your life, don't take the risk to lose her because of a stupid mistake.

10. Thinking that online dating sites are some kind of shops where you can find a lover like you find a pair of shoes, and if you are braking the shoes you can go back to that shop and buy another pair just like the first. It is not true, every human, every soul is unique. If you lose her/him it is for good. So I am sure that you will have problems like all couples have but it is worthy to make the effort to solve these problems together.

Be happy that the technology gives you the chance to meet your match online, but do not waste this chance, it could never come back to you.

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Wednesday, September 12, 2007

The Logic Of Females - Or Lack There Of

Many males complain that they don't understand females. Many females complain that they don't understand males. We also have the classic saying that men are from mars and women are from venus. Physically both sexes are very similar and are of the same species so what is the problem?

After much reading on the subject, there seems to be a general consensus that there is a fundamental difference in the way men and women think. The bottom line is that men think with logic but women think with emotions. This is why a male gets so frustrated with a females sometimes irrational behavior.

Additionally, a female rarely says directly what she wants. Instead, she will use reverse psychology by asking the male a series of questions until she gets the desired answer. If she does not get the desired answer she will take the huffs and give the male 'the cold shoulder treatment'. She thinks this will alert the male that something is wrong and he will do what she wants….with out actually telling him |:(

Meanwhile the male is left dazed and confused as to what happened. After which an argument is usually required to get to the bottom of the problem. The whole situation could have been avoided if the female had stated directly what she wanted in the first place.

When asked why they do this, most women will either answer that they don't realize they're doing this or they simply don't know why. Many an argument could be avoided if what came out of a girls mouth was the same as the thought that was processed in her brain. But alas, it is not.

The classic example is a couple driving along a road. The female is hungry so she says to the male 'would you like to get something to eat?' The male replys 'no thanks I'm not hungry at the minute' and keeps driving. She then takes it thick because she didn't get the answer she was looking for. If she had said 'I'm hungry, pull in at the next shop so I can get some food' he would have done just that without question.

This all stems back to the fact that a female thinks with her emotions, not logic. This is why a male cannot understand a females rational. Males cannot read between the lines. They are not psychic or clairvoyant and they need everything spelled out to them in black and white.

Males often also complain that females are moody, have mood swings and show irrational or erratic behavior. This is especially apparent in times of stress, emergencies or significant events where body chemicals and emotions are highly stimulated.

Because a females behavior is affected by her emotions and her emotions are affected by her body chemistry and her body chemistry is in a state of flux from one month to the next, it can only be expected that a female would exhibit erratic behavior that is a mystery to a man whose body does not go through a constant monthly cycle of change. Re-read that last paragraph guys if it went over your head.

Unfortunately this behavior is genetically built into a females body. So sorry guys, you are going to have to live with it and while you can't get rid of it, you can at least be aware of it and try to understand it.

So in short, guys need to try to interpret better what a girl is saying, as it may not be exactly what she means. Girls need to try better to say exactly what they mean, if they want their guy to do what they want, without playing head games with them. Whether this is actually possible (as it goes against our genetic programming) is another case entirely.

About Author

Jack Crow is a freelance writer and part time webmaster. When he's not building web sites he's checking out new dating sites that appear on the net. To see what he thinks of them visit:


Friday, September 7, 2007

How to Pick Romantic Personalized Jewelry

Looking for a great romantic present for your wife, girlfriend or fiance? We recommend personalized jewelry - personalized jewelry is a very romantic gift and it could be personalized with different things, such as a name or the first initial. Your gift recipient knows how special she is, because the gift with her name or initial on it is just for them.

We have put together these tips to help you find a perfect piece of personalized jewelry for that special woman in your life. Here are our tips to help you find that perfect personalized jewelry:

- Personalized Rings. Personalized rings make great gifts. You may personalized a ring with different things. Personalized couples rings may include first initials or birthstones of both people in a couple.

Or, personalize that ring just for her - there are many possibilities. Rings personalized with a birthstone are great, so are initials rings (a ring personalized with her first initial), or name rings, rings with her name on it.

- Personalized Necklaces and Pendants. Personalized necklaces are very popular; necklaces personalized with a first name of the wearer used to be all the rage a few years ago, and they are still pretty popular.

There are many different personalizations to choose from. You may pick for the name to be written in regular letters or script letters, and you may pick a birthstone to be added to the necklace. Personalized necklaces and pendants come in many different looks and concepts. Take a look at a few different ones, and pick the one that reflects the style of the woman you love.

- Personalized Bracelets are also very popular, and there are many to choose from. Some bracelets are personalized with the recipient's name. Others may be personalized with both of your names. Yet, others may have her birthstone or a few of her birthstones on it, making it one of a kind bracelet just for her.

Next time when you are looking for a romantic gift for the one you love, get her a personalized piece of jewelry. You will be glad you did - she will love it!

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Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Kissing Tips - Make a Kiss More Passionate

Kissing is something that most couples do. Kissing well and with passion, however, is far less common. All too often, people fall into boring ruts and monotonous techniques that make kissing an undesirable prelude of more exciting activities to come. This is especially true for couples who have been together for awhile. To keep kissing fun or to rekindle the flame that was once there, observe the guidelines below.

1) What you do right before a kiss will set the mood. Gaze into their eyes and pay your sweetie a romantic compliment.

2) Hold your partner firmly, but gently in your arms. Put one arm around their back and put the other around the base of their head.

3) Occasionally, put both of your hands on your partner's cheeks to intensify the moment.

4) Kiss other places than the mouth. Add variety and intimacy by breaking away to kiss the cheek, forehead, neck, or anywhere else you feel is appropriate.

5) While maintaining a slow rhythm is essential to establishing intimacy, occasional bursts of intensified and quick movements (with tongue and hands) lasting several seconds will increase the passion.

6) Break the lip lock every few minutes to make a compliment about your partner's kissing ability, passion, or how sexy they are.

7) Location will determine the intimacy of the moment. Don Juan, himself, would have trouble creating a sensual moment in a busy school hallway with people walking by. Isolated areas are the best place to unleash your passion.

8) Use your hands to freely caress your partner's body. You can caress the hair, stroke their back, etc.

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Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community

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