Wednesday, February 14, 2007

Five Tips to Keep Your Valentine's Day Romantic Feelings Going Strong Year-Round

Five Tips to Keep Your Valentine's Day Romantic Feelings Going Strong Year-Round
By Felicia Slattery

Ah, Valentine's Day. The flowers. The candy. The cards. The fancy schmancy dinner in a "nice" restaurant. Sharing one decadent dessert with two forks. The romance. The soft music. The candlelight that makes everyone look amazing. How wonderful.

Then comes the rest of the year. After the flush of romance on Valentine's Day, most couples soon forget the sweet sentiments on the cards they exchanged and fall quickly back into their routines, which while somewhat necessary, can lead to boredom and stagnation in the relationship in a hurry.

To avoid falling into that boredom and stagnation in your relationship, try taking an approach written about by Bill O’Hanlon, author of Do One Thing Different. Change one aspect of your relationship and notice how powerful even a small, seemingly inconsequential change can be. According to O'Hanlon, "Although not everything is in your control, you do have the power to make your life better. The smallest changes in your life can move you in the right direction."

Here are some some small things you can change about your relationship that will keep those Valentine’s Day romantic feelings going all year long. By the way, many of these tips are inexpensive or even free, so they work for even the tightest budgets!

  • Send each other free e-cards or virtual flowers on a regular basis. Websites like and have developed a great way to have potential on-line customers experience their business: by offering free products delivered via email. Another plus is these services offer a wide variety of options to choose from, so you can send a funny or sentimental card or a photo of a beautiful bouquet or a fat-free box of virtual chocolates! Start and end each day with the words, "I love you." By making this simple but profound expression of your feelings on a regular basis, your partner will continue to be reminded just how important s/he is to you.
  • Create a standing date that you never miss, regardless of life’s circumstances. Decide what is important for you. You can read the Sunday paper in bed together while you enjoy coffee or tea together. You can go to church and breakfast together every Sunday morning. You can open a bottle of wine each Friday night after work and share your favorite moments from the week. Think of something you can do even if you are on vacation or other life events come up. You’ll soon find yourselves looking forward to these special intimate moments.
  • Begin a "love journal." Write notes for each other in a book that you leave for the other to find: on his pillow, at her place at the dinner table, on the driver’s seat of his car, in her bedroom closet. What would you write? Anything at all! Share your thoughts about an upcoming holiday, describe in vivid detail how you felt when you first met, re-live a moment from your honeymoon, explain your position about a recent disagreement, write a list of the top 10 things you love about each other. Whatever you can dream up, you can write in your love journal. Remember that the purpose is to draw you closer together.
  • Thank your spouse regularly. By offering a simple verbal thank you reminds your spouse that you do not take everything s/he does for granted. When he prepares a delicious meal, thank him for it. When she works long hours at the office to land a big client, thank her for working so hard. When he takes out the garbage, when she pays the bills - make sure your spouse knows how grateful you are by saying so.
  • What ideas can you think of that would work for injecting more romance into your everyday life? Remember, all you need to do is change one small thing to soon notice some big rewards. So instead of only having to look forward to the flush of romance Valentine’s Day offers, you can have the entire year look forward to!
If you have more ideas, send them to © Felicia Slattery, 2007.

Felicia Slattery is a life and relationship coach with more than a decade of
experience teaching others how to improve their communication skills and lead
happier more successful lives. She offers a free e-course called "5 Strategies
for Creating Happily Ever After in Your Marriage" at her website
Enjoy your marriage: it's the Journey of a lifetime!

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